I have a bit of a dilemma, caused by LJ and its mislabelling of 'friends list'. If only Dreamwidth was out already.

Basically, my friends list on LJ is a copy of the journals and communities I'm reading in my RSS Feed Reader. So I have friends that are not on my friends list and people that are on my friends list that aren't friends. Which makes the name of it rather a misnomer.

But, people friend me and I feel like I should friend them back, even if their LJ doesn't look like it contains anything I want to read. And I also friend people and then find that actually, I'm not reading their LJ. It seems a bit funny to friend someone and then unfriend them again not much later.

But it also seems really deceitful to friend people without reading them. Because putting someone on your friends list is pretty much a statement that you're reading this person.

To make it worse, a lot of people in TR put stuff related to the RP under friends lock in their personal LJs. I don't like to ask them to friend me, because if they wanted to read my LJ then you'd think they would friend me anyway. And I don't want to be on their friendslist with the knowledge that they're not reading it.

I did think about having two LJs, one which had the people I'm reading friended and one with the people I would friend whether I want to read them or not. But I think that would confuse other people. And not be particularly helpful either.

In theory it shouldn't be a problem because when I write a friends locked post I planned to copy it into my blog as a protected post, which anyone I allow can read it - and anyone that's friended me that I haven't friended back will certainly be allowed. As well as people without LJs.

It's just that, well, I feel bad about not friending people back, mostly.

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